Anger Management Forgiveness Spectrum Another point of confusion with forgiveness for many people is that forgiveness comes in degrees. A lot of times people think about forgiveness as all or nothing, something you either do or you don’t do. I hear people say things like, “Yes, I did forgive him,” or “No, I didn’t forgive…
Defining Forgiveness
Defining Forgiveness For Anger Healing But before we go too far talking about forgiveness, it is important to clarify what it is that we are talking about, what we mean when we use the word “forgiveness”–and what we don’t. In other words, defining forgiveness helps us do it. Forgiveness helps marriage counselors restore relationships. Forgiveness…
Letting Go Of Your Anger
The Importance of Letting Go Anger To really control your anger in the long run, you absolutely must learn how to let it go. Letting go of your anger is so important that I will go as far as to say this: if you don’t learn how to let go of your anger, you will…
Blaming Others Anger Management Danger
Blaming Others: Becoming The Victim One of the biggest dangers of falling into these trap is that you become the victim. Everyone else is ruining your life. It’s not your fault–they are doing this to you. You are the poor, innocent one who is being taken advantage of. They are making it miserable for you….
Anger Recovery Obsticles
Anger Recovery Barriers and Obstacles Often those that struggle the most with anger also struggle with taking full responsibility for their anger. Here are four ways that you may be avoiding taking full responsibility for your anger and being unsuccessful in anger recovery.
Anger Awareness
Develop Anger Awareness Imagine you are speeding down the road and you hear a beep. You look up and notice that your radar detector is flashing. This should tell you three things. There is potential problem ahead. You should slow down. You need to take action right away. When your radar detector goes off it…
Obstacles Anger Management: Blaming
Blaming Others Obstacle Blaming is an obstacle to successful anger management progress. If you want to control your anger, blaming is one of your enemies and you will need to stop blaming at all costs. If you continue to blame others for your anger, it will get in the way of your progress and your…
Stuck Anger Management Clients
Are You A Stuck Anger Management Client? Whenever I see a client who is not making progress, I ask them a simple question, “Are you working the steps?” Almost 100% of the time the answer I hear back is, “no.” These clients want to improve but they are what I call Stuck Anger Management Clients….
Anger Management Solution
What Is The Anger Management Solution? Most people who struggle with anger know that something is wrong, but they don’t know what it is, and they don’t know how to solve it. Most of us were never taught how to handle anger. We didn’t learn how to do it in school. And if we learned…
Taking Responsibility
Taking Responsibility For Your Anger The truth is that you are responsible for your actions no matter what anyone else does or says. It may be true that you were abused as a child. You may have experienced all kings of horrible things, from emotional to physical to sexual abuse. Please understand that I am…